If you want to be an elite warrior, you better get really good at helping the person to the left of you and to the right of you because that’s how people advance in the world. The world is too dangerous and difficult for you to think that you can do these things alone if you find your spark.
Here are the five little rules from motivational speaker and organizational consultant Simon Sinek; Simon Oliver Sinek is an English-born American author and inspirational speaker on business leadership. His books include Start with Why and the infinite Game; that you can follow as you find your spark and bring your spark to life.
"Some people see what they want, and some people can only see what prevents them from getting what they want." -Simon Sinek
- You can break the rules: There are two types of people in the world – those who see what they want and those who can only see what stands in their way. Which type of person are you? Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. And working hard for something we love is called passion. You don’t have to wait in line, you don’t have to do it the way everybody else has done it. You can do it your way. You can break the rules. You juts can’t get in the way of somebody else getting what they want.
- Take credit and also hold yourself accountable for wrongs: you can take all the credit in the world for the things that you do as long as you also take responsibility for the things you do wrong. It must be a balanced equation. You don’t get it one way and not the other way.
"If we inspire people, they will give us more than we asked for. If we manipulate them, they will give us exactly what we paid for" --Simon Sinek
- Offer help and ask for it when you need it: The single most valuable thin you can ever learn in your entire life is to accept help when it’s offered. Ask for it when you know that you can’t do it alone. The amazing thing is when you learn to ask for help, you’ll discover that there are people all around you, who’ve always wanted to help you. they just didn’t think you needed it because you kept pretending that you had everything under control. The minute you say, I don’t know what I’m doing, I’m stuck, I’m scared, I don’t think I can do this; you’ll find that lots of people who love you will rush in and take care of you.
- Practice the skill of being the last to speak: The skill to hold your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken does two things; One, it gives everybody else the feeling that they have been heard. It gives everyone else the ability to feel that they’ve contributed. and two, you get the benefit of hearing what everybody else has to think before you render your opinion. The skill is ready to, understand from where they are speaking. At the end you’ll get your turn to speak.
- You only deserve a Styrofoam cup, everything else is for the position you hold: Remember this as you gain fame, fortune, position. As you gain seniority people will treat you better. They will hold doors open for you, they will get you a cup of tea and coffee without you even asking. They will give you stuff- none of that stuff is meant for you. that stuff is meant for the position you hold. It is meant for the level that you have achieved of leader or success. You’ll always deserve a Styrofoam cup- Remember that always!
"Dream big. Start small. But most of all, START." - Simon Sinek